Communication is they key to planning and executing a successful move when children are part of the equation. Getting a child of any age involved in the moving process from start to finish is the best way to reduce stress before, during and after your move.
We’ll start by discussing the best tips for moving with children before your move. This is a great jumping off point if you’re considering a move or have a move in the works!
Before Your Move
Be upfront about your upcoming move
It’s important to tell your kids about your upcoming move as soon as possible. This allows the child to begin processing the move.
Open lines of communication
Your child will have questions about the upcoming move. Make them feel comfortable approaching you with questions and concerns. Depending on the age of your child, you may consider asking them to write down a list of questions they have and plan a family meeting to sit down and discuss each questions/concern in detail. Be open and considerate of their requests and try your best to accommodate their needs.
Like father like son
Children’s tension levels mimic yours. That’s why it’s extremely important to keep a positive attitude throughout the move – your children will too!
Make it a family affair
Keep your kids interested and involved by assigning small tasks to help with your move. Ask them to do research on your new community. They may find community activities that interest them so they’re excited about this new stage in life.
Another fun project is to create “My Moving Essentials.” Ask your child to decorate a box to put their favorite items they’ll need immediately after moving…a pair of pajamas, a toothbrush, they’re favorite blanket or book. This way your child can locate their box on move-in day and have everything they need to comfortably settle into their new home!
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Knows what’s important to your child
Your child’s reaction to moving will depend on their age. Younger children, up to age ten, are more concerned with how the move will affect their routine. Therefore, it is important to keep their schedules the same during the planning and moving stages. For example, keep their school routine as similar as possible, while also keeping their mealtimes and bedtimes the same.
Pre-teens and teenagers are more concerned with losing touch with their friends. Suggest your teens create a personalized address book by collecting contact information of family and friends they don’t want to lose contact with.
During Your Move
Out with the old…
No matter what age your children you should celebrate their old home and community before embracing your new one. Throw a casual pizza party for your kids inviting their friends and neighbors. This is a positive way to say goodbye.
Have you kids make a list of their favorite places, whether it be the local zoo or favorite restaurant, and plan a visit to three favorites before move-day. Celebrating will put a positive spin on what you’re leaving behind.
In with the new…
This is an exciting time for your kids. Let them explore their new home finding all the nooks and crannies that make this house a home. Involving the kids in the planning and decorating of their new room is always a great way to engage them! Let them help with the floor plan and picking the paint color on the walls. They’ll be excited just to be a part of the planning process.
Settling in
Now’s the time to find each child’s “My Moving Essentials” suitcase. That favorite blanket or book might be just what your child needs to make that first night a good night.
If you have a family pet it’s also very important to make sure that pet is adjusting comfortably. Kids are often very concerned about their pets and to see their pet at ease will put them at ease.
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After Your Move
Set those ground rules
Now’s the time to re-establish those ground rules from the old home. Enforce the normal bedtime schedule the first night in your new home. Have your favorite breakfast cereal on hand that first morning, etc. It’s important to show your kids the only thing that’s changed is the roof you live under.
Have a little fun
It’s important to unpack essentials, like bedding, bathroom and kitchen supplies and boxes, but you can take your time with the rest. Get out there and explore your new neighborhood and community with your children. Find a new favorite pizza joint and make a family affair out of it.
Introduce yourself to the neighbors. Who knows, your child’s new best friend might be right next door!
The dreadful new school
If your child is starting a new school it’s important to schedule a tour so your child can see the lay of land and possible meet their new teachers. This will help alleviate anxiety associated with new schools.
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Hopefully you found these tips useful. Communication and participation are the key ingredients for a successful more – with or without children!